May 26, 2009

will you cheat when you're 40?

"will you cheat when you're 40?"
my dearest suddenly popped this question, out of the blue.

I was thinking, for goodness sake, i am not even 30.
then i said: "for goodness sake, i am not even 30"
I don't do much of thinking. It's the guy thing.

dear: so tell me, for real, will you cheat when you're 40?
me: should i repeat? i am not even 30.
d: so, will you cheat?
m: are you alright?
d: ok, if you're presented with a very pretty gal, what will you do?
m: i'm bring her to meet you, the prettiest gal ever.
d: but beauty is not forever.
m: maybe not physically.

she took a deep breath and do her own things.

later on, i got curious and probed about those previous nonsensical question.

apparently, among the colleagues, clearly in her line of work, they got too much time at work and started a topic of "will guys cheat at 40years old?". One of her colleagues was saying no money, no babes and the other held on to the belief that money is not the factor.

Why 40? My dearest was saying I would be pretty successful by then, and with success, comes lots of uninvited bees. I believe she's having unnecessary emotional distress from unnecessary discussion in her lepak hours.

I told her,
Without her, my success wouldn't be a success.
As a matter of fact, it is true.

Just today,

Data in the Malaysia Community and Family Study 2004 by the National Population and Family Development Board (LPPKN) revealed that “meddlesome in-laws” is the number one reason why Indian couples get divorced.

It is also among the top three factors for divorce among the Malays and Chinese. The other two factors are incompatibility (42.3%) and infidelity (12%).

So far, I'm not having any problems with my in laws. As of my mom, she can be pretty didactic at times, but luckily, my dearest is a keen 'scholar'.

Incompatibility is situational.

Infidelity is a temptation.
The thrill of it drives you to it, money only catalyzes it.
Doing it is one thing, knowing your partner can achieve the same is another.
Think twice. Thrice better.

And so back to the big question:
Will I cheat when I am 40?
Clearly, my KPI is 0%.
I'm not answering the question, am I?


fibrate said...

That's a lot of words none of which is a NO. It's a guy thing maybe :)

Anonymous said...

o% does mean NO, doesn't it...

bongkersz said...

You'll never know, till the time comes. Now, another question, what are the things/reasons that would stop a guy from straying? Religion? Moral compass? Responsibility? :)

seahorse27 said...

She asked you that question might be because she's starting to feel insecure for her future. Why can't you say NO immediately she asked that question?

pilocarpine said...

@seahorse/fibrate: No is a simple word. word do not bring confidence. Action do. that's why lots of people are betrayed by words. for the record, we're pretty sure of our future, because we began with the end in mind.

@bongkerz: religion, moral compass, responsibility not in the equation of stray prevention. i believe having 'gf factor' in my dearest will keep me well in the relationship, and thought of my dearest can also cheat will keep me out of infidelity.

juz my 2 cents anyway.

seahorse27 said...

Ok... well said. Actions speaks louder than words.. that I know.

Anonymous said...

well said, but everything is impermenance... nothing is certain except for death...

Anonymous said...

haha..funny lar..but i believe Aedan will bond u both tgt forever..seeing him grows up mar..=D
Is family bond,unbreakable,unless heartless guys?

pilocarpine said...

without heart, one ceases to exist...