May 9, 2009

journey after subfertility

Today, it's mommy day.

Reflected few days back on every single moments that I had with my mom.
How I used to make my own mommy's day's card for her, now, it's only taking my mom and family out for a fine meal.

once upon a time, me and my sis

My mom was there when I needed her the most, and she is always there whenever I needed her now. I'm all grown up, but I believe, in my mom's heart, I am always that little fat son of hers.

Every moments with my mom, I shall keep it tightly in my heart.

The journey of motherhood is never easy. And my dearest wife, is herself, a struggling young mother, who balancing her work and family, made her the stronger and more admirable role model for my Aedan.

I am truly glad that I had two wonderful mothers beside me in my life - one's my Mom, the other, my son's Mom a.k.a. my wife.

If journey of motherhood is not easy, the journey prior to that is even more complicated, especially so, if one is struggling with subfertility.

My mom had a fair share of struggle with subfertility as well.
She was having difficulty conceiving after a long period of time after tying the knot.
Resorted to several traditional ways.
Looked for chinese bomohs.
Pray Choo Sen Niang Niang (Goddess of Birth).
Took a god-daughter (my cousin sister).
Etc and etc and etc.
Succeeded before going for gynae consultation.

One of my wife's friend, painstakingly struggle with subfertility for 9 years. exhausted all the traditional method. through gynae consultation, gone through IUI (intrauterine insemination) for a few times, and finally referred to Alor Star for IVF (in vitro fertilization) scheduled for in July.

I hope for the best for her.

As for one of my friend whom had undergone IVF after being subfertile for a long period of time is currently recuperating at home after having abdomen all bloated, complicated with ovarian hyperstimulation syndrome. Her IVF success is still uncertain.

I wish her well.

Lastly, I guess this lady from another continent, really had faced infertility bravely and pulled through with a twin.

April 2000 – Got married, went off birth control pills
Nov 2000 – had a lap to check that insides were all ok
Jan 2001 – IUI#1 – negative
Feb 2001 – IUI#2 – negative
April 2001 – IUI#3 – negative
May 2001 – IVF#1 – cancelled, due to poor response
Sep 2001 – IVF#2 – 25 eggs, zero fert, rescue ICSI, negative
Jan 2002 – IVF#3 – 35 eggs, 34 embies, positive, but ectopic
Apr 2002 – IVF#4 – FET, negative
May 2002 – IVF#5 – FET, negative
Jun 2002 – IVF#6 – FET, negative
Nov 2002 – IVF#7 – 28 eggs, 24 embies, positive, vanishing twin, miscarriage at 8w3d, D&C
May 2003 – IVF#8 – 8 eggs, 4 embies, positive, quads, S/R to twins, lost one twin, Luke at 21w
Jan 2004 – Ben born prematurely at 26w, 4 Jan 2004, died 14 Jan 2004
Feb 2003 – lap and HSG
April 2004 – IVF#9 – 20 eggs, 18 embies, positive, twins
Jan 2005 - Adam and Kate born 7 Jan 2005

I am glad infertility, that's one journey that me and my wife not going through.

To my lovely forever young mom, and my yummy-mummy dearest wife,

KL tower 2006: 2 world greatest mom!!



Yew TW said...

not tomoro meh?? :)

Anonymous said...

it's always good to wish early

pilocarpine said...

yep, better early.. haha..